Dan O'Connor

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Need to Apologize but Don’t Know How? Apology Made Easy–With a Little Humor

Thursday, May 13th, 2010

Here’s your quick-and-easy communication skills training for the day:

The Doppelganger Pass-off

Have you ever lost your temper or embarrassed yourself at work or at home, and then needed to apologize for whatever it is you said or did? You know that sick feeling in your gut that you get when you know you should apologize for something? Well, next time you find yourself in this difficult position, use the Doppelganger Pass-off, and say something like this:

“Hey Charlie (name of the person to whom you’re apologizing), just so you know, there is this crazy person who looks like me and sounds like me who’s going around claiming he IS me. He’s been doing really strange things. Evidently he…(Insert what you did here; For example, “has been sending out rude emails,” or, “got totally out-of-control drunk at the office Christmas party,” or “throws temper tantrums in front of our customers,” or whatever it is you did.). I hope you haven’t seen him, but if you do, please pay no attention to him at all–he’s just a crazy doppelganger.” (more…)

 

Dealing With Difficult People? New Communication Training Program: EVS101

Tuesday, April 20th, 2010

Dan O’Connor releases his much anticipated communication training program, Energy Vampire Slaying: 101, How to Combat and Defeat Negative Energy and Toxic Attitudes in your Office, Your Home, and Yourself. This professional training program is totally free, and includes:

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• Book
• Workbook
• Quick-Reference Cards
• Daily Principle Cards

Just click here to go to our Free Book page, and download your copy today.

Please remember to leave your comments and questions as you complete the program.

 

Instantly Change Any and Every Relationship

Monday, April 5th, 2010

NEW FREE AUDIO PODCAST: Are you struggling with healing, transforming, or resurrecting a relationship? If you’re dealing with difficult people in the workplace or at home, it is not the difficult person (or Energy Vampire) that needs transformation; it is the lens, or the heart through which you are perceiving this relationship that needs transformation. Communication training, whether professional, interpersonal, or romantic, starts with you–on the inside. Click here to listen to today’s podcast from our “Something to Think About” series, (more…)

 

Communication Between the Sexes: “Position” Yourself Carefully When Talking to Men at Work

Wednesday, March 10th, 2010

QUICK PROFESSIONAL COMMUNICATION TRAINING TIP! You can do this starting today: When talking to men at work, remember to turn to the side before speaking. This will help open the lines of communication. Men prefer to talk while standing side-by-side, and simply turning our heads to face the other person. Women prefer talking face-to-face, or in other words, completely head-on. This is very different. If you talk to a man while facing him dead-on, it triggers something that has been hardwired in our brains to send an alert that says, “WARNING! AGGRESSION!” and the lines of communication close down. (more…)

 

NEW AUDIO PODCAST: ENOUGH IS ENOUGH

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

NEW AUDIO PODCAST: Many of us are going through life seeing things from a perspective of lack, when actually we are in a constant state of abundance. The word enough is a word most of us don’t use enough, and all of us need to use more. Today Dan helps you gain perspective, and incorporate more abundant thinking every day simply by focusing on, and using this word. Click here to listen to today’s podcast.

 

What You Invest in Shows and What You Focus on Grows

Tuesday, March 2nd, 2010

NEW AUDIO PODCAST: Are you investing in your professional communication training? It shows. Are you investing in your family? It shows. Are you investing in your career? It shows. So many people we know are living lives filled with misery and suffering. What they don’t realize is, that they are investing in misery and suffering. It is a universal law that what you invest in shows, and what you focus on grows. In today’s podcast, Dan helps you see what you’re investing in, and not investing in, so you can cultivate what you really want in your life. Click here to listen to today’s motivational podcast.

 

Wonder Twins Powers Activate! Form of…

Saturday, February 13th, 2010

NEW AUDIO PODCAST: You know how we tend to get it backwards most of the time? Well, one way we tend to get it backwards, especially in our personal relationships, is focusing on form rather than substance. We focus on the form love takes in our lives; the form abundance takes in our lives; the form God takes in our lives. The important thing is not the form, but the substance. Today, Dan’s inspirational thought for the day clarifies this idea. Click here to listen to this podcast in Dan’s Something to Think About series.

 

10 POWER PHRASES YOUR CHILDREN SHOULD HEAR YOU SAY OFTEN

Monday, December 28th, 2009

Use these phrases constantly. You can’t say them enough. Say them to your kids right now as soon as you finish reading this, and never stop saying them.

Communication skills are not just about business. The most important place you can exhibit effective communication skills is at home. Here are some power phrases you can use at home in abundance. Use them all the time, every day.

1. “I love you so much–no matter what–always.”

2. “You can always count on me.”

3. “You’re beautiful just the way you are.”

4. “Your job is to dream as big as you can. My job is to help you achieve your dreams. I’ll do my job if you do yours.”

5. “You can do it. You can do anything.” (more…)

 

New Podcast: I Do Not Perceive My Own Best Interests

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2009

There is a line in A Course in Miracles that reads, “I do not perceive my own best interests.” Basically, we think and think about how to fix our lives, and unfortunately, the source upon which we’re drawing, namely our mind, is flawed beyond belief. Our mortal mind is made up of all our past experiences here in the physical plane, where we are bombarded with illusions, and we have delusions that we somehow gained truth from our mortal experiences. This is insanity. Click here to go to our podcast channel and listen to this podcast.

What we should be drawing upon for inspiration is the universe, God, the Holy Spirit, Jesus, Buddha, or whatever your source is that provides enlightenment. It’s as if we have a rice bowl in our brains, and we search it for answers, but it has the same rice in it today that it had in it yesterday. (more…)

 

5 Danger Phrases Your Children Should NEVER Hear You Say

Wednesday, December 16th, 2009

1) “Not good enough.” Children look to their parents for validation of who they are and how much they’re worth. For children it’s parents first, then God. Give your children the gift of self-esteem. Children find it difficult to separate what they do from who they are. We might think we’re telling our children that they didn’t try hard enough, or that their homework wasn’t good enough, but what they hear is that they aren’t enough. As a parent, you have the power to change your child’s world forever with just one word. Enough can be that word. When you’re about to criticize your child’s work, try wrapping it in a compliment, such as, “You’re good enough to win the gold medal the next time if you keep practicing,” or “you’re smart enough to get an A the next time if you just keep studying.” Imagine if tomorrow God came down from heaven and told you that you are good enough, strong enough, smart enough, and pretty enough just the way you are. You can make that happen for your kids starting right now. What a gift, huh? 

2) “Why can’t you be more like (your brother, your sister, John, Mike, Trixie)…” is a spirit killer. Don’t speak words of death.  We all know what it’s like and how it hurts to be compared to other people. Your children will do enough of that in their own heads when they grow up. We all do. When you feel like comparing your kids to other people, instead, choose the characteristics that you admire in the people you were about to compare your kids to, and compliment your kids on those characteristics. For example, “You know John, when I see you applying yourself to your schoolwork, it really makes me proud of you.” Or, “When I see the loving side of you come out when you’re with your little sister, I feel so proud to be your mother that my heart nearly bursts.”  (more…)

 

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